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Having a Menage A Trois

What exactly is a Menage A Trois? Well, a blunt cut to the chase definition would be an intimate version of a sex orgy. :) Specifically:

Noun 1. menage a trois - household for three; an arrangement where a married couple and a lover of one of them live together while sharing sexual relations, but not actually relationships".

Sexual reality dictates that it's every guy's ultimate fantasy to have two women at the same time, but women don't usually fantasize about sharing their man with another woman. It's quite a challenge for any guy to make it happen, and some women will never do it, but any guy's odds will improve with the right approach..Guess what? That's exactly what will be diving into!

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Tips and Advice for talking a wife or girlfriend into a Threesome:

All women have bisexual tendencies to a varying degree. Most women agree that a woman's body is much sexier than a man's. What's hard to do is to get a woman to admit she has fantasized about a lesbian encounter, and even if you get that far you will still run into some difficulty getting her to agree to a threesome. In some cases, however, it might surprise you how willing they coule be. Before we get into specifics about convincing your significant other that a threesome would be a right thing to do, let's go over all the variables.

Who Wants to be Part of a Threesome?
People pursue threesomes for various reasons. First, the most common, are men who are looking to fulfill the fantasy of being with two women at the same time, especially if the women perform bisexual acts during the course of the threesome, otherwise known as "show time". ? There are also women who want to experience being with two men at the same time (which is not as uncommon as you might think).

Furthermore, there are those looking to experiment, usually during college years (otherwise known as the "experimental years"), or those who have recently been divorced after being married for a lot of years, particularly those who married at a very young age. They may have missed out on the experimental years when they were younger, so they look to make up for it later in life.

Lastly, there are very sexual men and women who are looking for more variety and merely want and need more than the typical "one on one" sex act - at least once in a while.

Why Would Someone Initiate a Threesome?
A man or woman might be looking to please their partner by fulfilling his/her fantasies or bi-curious tendencies, and so agrees to a threesome with another person. Of course, there is the bisexual person who is simply looking for that occasional excitement of a threesome.

For many bisexual women, having sex with a man is like having dinner . dinner is something you have every night. However, having sex with a woman is like having dessert . something you don't necessarily have every night, but something you may treat yourself to on occasion!

Swingers (who are now referred to as people who live alternative lifestyles) will often enjoy any kind of an orgy, including threesomes. So a swinger would definitely have reason to initiate a threesome. Also, a person who is looking for a lot of attention and wants to be the so-called "meat in the sandwich" is a prime candidate for initiating a threesome.

Different types of threesomes
The most common threesome is that of a man and two women. The second most common threesome is a woman with two men. However, there are threesomes consisting of the same sex (i.e. 3 men or 3 women). There are also the threesomes that include bisexuality, and then there are those that don't; some just want to experience their partner in a physically intimate situation with another person.

Threesome Advantages and Disadvantages
For very sexual people, or for those who are bi-curious, a threesome can genuinely be an electrifying experience. However, for those who are agreeing to a threesome solely for the purpose of pleasing their partner (but who are not really into it), there can be repercussions.

A very common example of a negative experience is of a spouse or a partner in a serious relationship, where there is LOVE involved, with the very real potential of jealousy affecting the ongoing relationship. As much as you may want to fulfill your partner's fantasy because you love him or her, beware...this is not an easy task when you are in love. Even for the most sexual people, love creates problems when it comes to threesomes, and even if you are bisexual and want to have a threesome for selfish reasons, it can still be very difficult for you to see your loved one participating in a sexual act with someone other than yourself.

However, if you are not in love with your partner and may just be having a sexual fling with that person, then a threesome can be simply orgasmic, because you can enjoy the excitement without the jealously, and if bisexuality is involved, you can also benefit from the best of both worlds!

Now let's talk about the outsider, the "guest". Being the outsider in a threesome is probably the best position to be in (no pun intended), because there is no love or emotion involved, you are there exclusively for the sex act. In most cases, the guest gets treated like a princess or a prince (as mentioned earlier, the meat in the sandwich), because the guest is the source of exhilaration and variety for the couple. Many times the guest is the couple's fantasy come true, and that's a pleasing feeling for the outsider. So, if you like a lot of attention, and if you like to fulfill other people's fantasies, definitely consider being the guest in a threesome?

The most common difficulty in being the guest in a threesome is when he or she is participating with a couple who has never had a threesome together previously; especially if you are a female guest of a couple in which the wife or girlfriend is not bisexual or bi-curious, and the husband or boyfriend tries to push a bisexual act on his partner when she's really not into it! It really puts the female guest in a very uncomfortable situation. This can easily cause an argument between the partners.

In some cases one partner will start to get jealous watching his or her partner making love with another person, which obviously results in making it a distressing situation for everyone involved. I've literally seen wives end up in tears and couples end up not talking or fighting. Needless to say, the guest ends up feeling responsible.

First of all, as I've emphasized earlier, if your partner is your spouse or someone you are truly in love with...my advice is, "Don't even consider it!" If you are adamant about sharing this particular fantasy with your loved one, I may have a happy medium for you . keep it as a fantasy only, but share it with your partner. In other words, during sex with your partner you can initiate sex talk about threesomes. Be honest and ask your partner to participate in the sex talk as well, and ask him or her to make up stories for you too, stories consisting of the two of you with a third person. That way you're always including your partner in your fantasy, without the repercussions that can occur from actually doing it. Your partner may even surprise you and end up being more turned on then you could have imagined. He or she may even have a few fantasies of his or her own to share with you, via sex talk. I sincerely suggest that you take my advice on this matter, as I've seen threesomes backfire way too many times with married couples or couples in a serious relationship! Trust me, you don't want to learn the hard way, it can end your marriage or a wonderful relationship, and a threesome is simply not worth that. So, consider keeping your threesomes just between the two of you!

Now, on the flip side, for couples who are not married or necessarily in love, or who are absolutely sure that pursuing a threesome will not jeopardize their relationship . you can initiate a conversation with your partner suggesting such. First of all, honesty about your desires is the best policy, but keep in mind that this is a very delicate topic and must be treated as such . with great discretion.

You must first use common sense. I don't know your partner, but you do! Is he or she the type who might participate in such? Is he or she a very sexual person? Is he or she one who has been known to experiment sexually? Has he or she ever talked about fantasies with you? Has he or she ever expressed being bi-curious? All of these questions are essential in determining whether or not your partner should be asked to participate in a threesome. As a hypothetic example: Suppose your partner is a woman who teaches elementary school, who was a virgin until she was 25 years old, and you are only the second man she's ever had sex with in her entire life; with someone like her, I suggest that you forget the idea of a threesome, limit it to sex talk. Unless, she's the total opposite in bed, which is rare, but it does occur on occasion. So, if you have a real wild card on your hands in bed, then that's a horse of a different color. Otherwise, don't pursue a threesome with her, unless you're prepared for the possibility of the relationship ending, or at least starting a huge fight.

Now, once you've truly found a potential partner to approach, suggest a threesome while you're already engaging in sex. The chance of hearing the answer you want to hear is much more likely to happen if you ask him or her while he or she is already hot!!! There's no right or wrong way to suggest a threesome. It truly depends on the people involved and the relationship you have. My only advice is that if and when you do propose it to your partner, make it perfectly clear that your desire for the threesome is not in any way, shape, size, or form, a result of your partner being inadequate! So, please be careful and make sure that you emphasize that it's just a sexual fantasy, and that it wouldn't be same without him or her.

Fortunately, most women are well aware that the overwhelming majority of men would give their right arm to be with two women at the same time. However, men, on the other hand, tend to find it difficult to understand why a woman would want a threesome with another man. Women, you have to be especially cautious, because men can be so much more insecure than they admit they are. So, when you do suggest it to your man, you might want to tell him that you are simply an extremely sexual woman (which alone will turn him on) and that you have many sexual fantasies (which will excite him even more), but you have no desire to fulfill any of them without him. That will boost his ego, which will hopefully help him see your suggestion of a threesome from a different prospective, a non-threatening one.

Selecting a Third Party
There are pros and cons in choosing a friend or a stranger. On one hand, you would probably feel more comfortable with someone you know - but on the other hand, you're taking the chance of possibly ruining that friendship if complications or jealousy arise. Even if the threesome turns out to be successful, it may still make all parties involved feel uncomfortable in the future if it was with a good friend. (Note: I would advise, whether you invite a friend or a stranger to join you, that you'll still take the same safety precautions.)

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